CAB couples connect through Strong Bonds

| July 19, 2013 | 0 Comments
Chaplain (Lt. Col.) Eric Jackson (standing) directs Staff Sgt. Brandy Gately  to respond as the listener to her husband, Staff Sgt. Adam Gately, during the communication techniques class  of the Strong Bonds Marriage Retreat at the Hale Koa Hotel, June 27.

Chaplain (Lt. Col.) Eric Jackson (standing) directs Staff Sgt. Brandy Gately to respond as the listener to her husband, Staff Sgt. Adam Gately, during the communication techniques class of the Strong Bonds Marriage Retreat at the Hale Koa Hotel, June 27.

Story and photos by
Sgt. Daniel Schroeder
25th Combat Aviation Brigade
Public Affairs
25th Infantry Division

Married couples of the 25th Combat Aviation Brigade, 25th Infantry Division, attended a recent Strong Bonds marriage retreat in Honolulu to explore elements that make a good marriage.

The retreat brought couples to a relaxed environment to focus on creating strong connections with each other.

“This retreat was a great opportunity for us to explore more depths of our marriage,” said Sgt. Jacqueline Garza, a communications and network noncommissioned officer assigned to Headquarters and Headquarters Company, 25th CAB, originally from Tampa, Fla. “When you are home, you think about everyday life; here, you focus on your relationship with your spouse.”

The first topic covered was the “Five Love Languages” in which the couples discovered the different types of giving and receiving affection.

WAIKIKI — Sgt. Mathew Gray (right), training noncommissioned officer, Troop E, 2nd Squadron, 6th Cavalry Regiment, 25th Combat Aviation Brigade, 25th Ifantry Division, enjoys time with his wife, Minerva, as they fill out a questionnaire on the Five Love Languages while attending the 25th CAB Strong Bonds Marriage Retreat at the Hale Koa Hotel, here, June 27. (Photo by Sgt. Daniel Schroeder, 25th Combat Aviation Brigade Public Affairs, 25th Infantry Division)

After the “Five Love Languages,” Chaplain (Lt. Col.) Eric Jackson, Family Life chaplain, 25th CAB, discussed hidden issues and solving problems in marriages. Jackson presented the couples with various communication skills needed to address hidden issues in marriages.

“One of the biggest obstacles in a marriage is communication,” said Chaplain (Capt.) Mike Derienzo, 2nd Squadron, 6th Cavalry Regiment, 25th CAB. “We give them the skills to work through a myriad of problems. Once Army spouses can understand each other, the better they can come to a resolution.”

One communication technique covered was the speaker-listener technique. This technique allows one person to express to a partner and have the partner repeat what was said. To better convey this technique, the couples performed a role-playing session on how the technique is used.

Sgt. Jacqueline Garza (left), communications and network noncommissioned officer, HHC, brainstorms with her husband, Sgt. 1st Class Arthur Garza, platoon sergeant, Co. C, 325th BSB, 3rd Bde. Combat Team, 25th ID, about possible family statements during the 25th CAB Strong Bonds Marriage Retreat at the Hale Koa Hotel, here, June 27.

Sgt. Jacqueline Garza (left), communications and network noncommissioned officer, HHC, brainstorms with her husband, Sgt. 1st Class Arthur Garza, platoon sergeant, Co. C, 325th BSB, 3rd Bde. Combat Team, 25th ID, about possible family statements during the 25th CAB Strong Bonds Marriage Retreat at the Hale Koa Hotel, here, June 27.

“Seeing what other couples are going through and listening to how they cope with situations gives us a better insight on how things can be handled differently,” said Garza. “The role playing sessions of five love languages and speaker-listener technique shed light on how individuals interpret love. The main thing is to remember we are different people, and we need to learn how to work together as different people to achieve the same goal.”

Child care was provided for the couples to allow the parents to focus on the Strong Bonds classes and to give the parents a few hours together in the evening without the children, if desired.

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