How does one adjust to being a new mom or dad?

| November 15, 2013 | 0 Comments

Chaplain (Capt.) Randy Belcher
3rd Battalion, 25th Combat Aviation Regiment
25th Combat Avn. Brigade
25th Infantry Division

I am a brand-new father late in life at age 43. My wife and I were blessed to have a son on Oct. 28, 2012.

Like most new moms and dads, we are very proud to be called parents. What scares me the most as a new father is that I might make a mistake that will tarnish my son’s life.

Like all Army parents, I watched the new parent video at the hospital about how parents must care for their new baby. The video introduces topics such as what to expect over the next few months as the child develops physically, mentally and emotionally, as well as the warning not to shake the baby if your are feeling stressed.

The video made a strong impact about what is to come over the next few months: No sleep, no time for you and your spouse, sudden joy, sudden fear, diapers galore, excitement about little the accomplishments, and how to handle those cries that do not seem to stop and you cannot figure out why.

As new parents, we are finding that the changes happen quickly, and just when we’ve figured out one thing, a new challenge emerges.

It is great to have family members around to help out, but for many of us, that may not be an option.

So, to whom can we turn for help? Where do we find strength? How do we deal with frustrations as a new parent? Here are some words from the Bible that may provide you encouragement during these times:

“Trust in the lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.”

(Proverbs, Chapter 3, verse 5)

The book of Proverbs is a collection of timeless wisdom for all aspects of our lives, including words of hope and encouragement. The author, Solomon, offers many encouraging words. Solomon knew how tough life can be; in those darkest times, he suggests that we go beyond our own abilities, thoughts and ideas by trusting the lord with a heart-felt trust. This is good news for new parents, for we can believe that the lord will guide us down the pathway to help us raise our children in the right way.

If you are struggling in this area, remember, your children are still learning, growing and developing. Seek out help if you need help.

One good place to consider is the Family Life Center, where you can reach a skilled professional counselor. Our current Family Life Chaplain is the father of eight children and knows a lot about the challenges of child rearing. Call the center at 655-6646 for assistance.

Another good practice is looking for an adoptive grandparent to help talk through the struggles and to be there to celebrate the joy of a child with your family.

Last, seek out God’s help for those moments that seem so overwhelming. What you do for your child’s development today will give them a firm foundation for the future.


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