True love is about giving of ourselves, not getting

| March 19, 2015 | 0 Comments

Chaplain (Capt.) Carlos A. Molina
2nd Squadron, 14th Cavalry Regiment
2nd Stryker Brigade Combat Team
25th Infantry Division


Soldier Molina in cavalry Stetson.



This is the age of love.

We are reminded of it everywhere.

Love at all levels is exalted. The love of friends, of couples, of parents, of children, even puppy love.

With so many types of loving relationships, have you ever wondered what the greatest form of love is?


“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” — John 15:13


This statement commanded us to love one another. The underlying principle here is that true love is about giving and not about getting.

This might come as a surprise to most since what we normally hear is that love is about getting what we want.

“I will know you love me if you buy this for me, or if you do what I want, etcetera,” we hear.

Yet, when you think about love from the perspective of giving instead of getting, it really makes sense. We all try to give our family the best we possibly can: best homes, best cars, best education, best relationships. And why do we do this? Because we love them! It makes sense.

To be sure, we all like to be at the receiving end of acts of love and kindness. We all like to feel appreciated, but this is not the entirety of love. True love is best expressed when we do something for others, even though we may not know them.

One of the best modern expressions of this is you, the service member and his family. You took an oath to serve others by putting your life on the line. You don’t know most of the American people you fight for – still, you go out and risk everything to defend them. Now that is love!

But it doesn’t stop there, because your family also demonstrates this love by entrusting you to the military service. The agonizing uncertainty of kissing you goodbye before you’re off to war, not knowing if you will ever come back, is nothing short of heroic love. Their hearts break and tears roll down their cheeks, but they still stand behind you, supporting you, and your brothers and sisters in arms.

Why? Because they love this country so much that they are willing to give up their best to defend every man, woman and child who is part of it whether they know them or not.

Is there any greater love than this? Absolutely not!

As much as we praise actors, singers, athletes and politicians, nothing compares to the awe and reverence we have for those who gave everything for people whom they did not even know.

So, let me ask you how is your love life? What have you given lately to show your love?

Are you seeking ways to serve others in your family and the community around you?

I encourage you today to show great love by giving of yourself. In the end of all the things you could give, nothing is more valuable than the gift of a life of service to others.

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