Making the most out of the moment

| October 2, 2015 | 0 Comments


Chaplain (Capt.) Paul Shin
524th Combat Sustainment Support Battalion
25th Infantry Division


I want to start off with a riddle: What is more precious than gold, but cannot be bought, earned or saved?

Before I answer, I want to describe a typical day after work as I think this may seem familiar to some.

After I get back home from work, I quickly acknowledge my wife and kids. I rush upstairs to wash up, making sure to wash my feet real good. When I get downstairs, I’m eying what my wife made for dinner. Afterwards, I am so busy eating that I forget to observe what goes on around me: my wife, who looks tired from watching the kids all day and preparing an awesome dinner to boot; my toddler making noises near my legs asking to be picked up; my older daughter laying down on the couch looking bored.

After dinner, TV or Facebook, anyone?

Sometimes we find ourselves too busy or wrapped up in the moment, whether it is from hunger or thinking about work (which you should not have brought home) that we forget to engage those closest to us.

When you get down to it, everyone has the same amount of time throughout the day: 24 hours, not a minute more or minute less.

For military personnel, if you get off duty at 5 p.m. (if you are lucky), that gives you four hours, until 9 p.m., when you have to wind down to sleep. That’s four hours out of 24 that you have with your family. That’s only 1/6th of the day! Not a whole lot of time. So, how do you maximize the time to enrich your relationship with your family?

This is when being intentional with your time pays dividends. One thing that is precious and can’t be bought, earned or saved is time – there goes the answer to the riddle.

But being intentional about what you choose to think about and do in the moment can make the difference between just passing the time – think cruise control – versus making time for loved ones.

So, let’s be intentional with our time with family. Before coming home, mentally prepare yourself to commit to engaging with the family. Take genuine interest in them and ask engaging questions. Observe how your family is feeling. Do your best to leave work at work. Try turning off the TV for a while.

Building a relationship with your family takes time and effort. But even a few hours of intentional time that focuses less on self and more on others can be a start to a stronger relationship. It is indeed more blessed to give than to receive.

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