Fighting Domestic Violence: Family Advocacy Program offers help from abuse

| October 14, 2016 | 0 Comments
Handmade T-shirts crafted with slogans against domestic violence decorate a clothesline set up for the Domestic Violence Awareness Month Proclamation Signing at the Nehelani, Sept. 30.

Handmade T-shirts crafted with slogans against domestic violence decorate a clothesline set up for the Domestic Violence Awareness Month Proclamation Signing at the Nehelani, Sept. 30.


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News Release
Domestic abuse victim advocates can help.

No one deserves to be abused, and that includes you.

Even though asking for help may be one of the hardest things you ever do, there are people who can help.

The Army Community Service’s Family Advocacy Program, or FAP, and Tripler Army Medical Center or the U.S. Army Health Clinic-Schofield Barracks, our military health care providers, can assist you if you’re the victim of domestic abuse.

If you choose to use non-military support services, one option is the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).
Victim advocates offer the following forms of assistance to help keep you safe:
Explanation of confidentiality and military reporting options. Under the restricted reporting option, you can report an incident to a FAP supervisor, clinician or a victim advocate or health care provider. You can also receive victim advocacy services, clinical or crisis counseling, mental health support and medical care without starting a law enforcement investigation or having the command notified.
Emergency services and counseling. Victim advocates can assist you in finding shelter, medical care, counseling, legal services and other resources – both on and off the military installation.

A dining setting for children who were victims of domestic violence was set during the proclamation signing for Domestic Violence Awareness Prevention Month, Sept. 30.

A dining setting for children who were victims of domestic violence was set during the proclamation signing for Domestic Violence Awareness Prevention Month, Sept. 30.

Safety plan a must
Safety plans provide a strategy for finding emergency assistance, a shelter or safe house, legal assistance, financial assistance and child care. If you’re not yet prepared to talk to someone, you can still develop a safety plan.
Military protective order or restraining order. If you live on an installation, you may want to consider a military protective order, which is similar to a restraining order issued by a civilian court. A military protective order or restraining order makes it illegal for your spouse to return home or enter your workplace.

Army Community Services Hawaii staff will be talking about ways to prevent domestic violence through out the month of October in various locations around U.S. Army Garrison-Hawaii. They will be at outreach tables today at the Schofield Barracks Commissary and Oct. 19 at Sgt. Yano Library.

Army Community Services Hawaii staff will be talking about ways to prevent domestic violence through out the month of October in various locations around U.S. Army Garrison-Hawaii.

A military protective order is issued by a military commander and may order the service member to surrender his or her weapons custody card, stay away from the family home or refrain from all forms of contact with the victim.
Your military installation recognizes military protective orders, while a civilian restraining order is enforceable on your installation, as well as in the civilian community. A victim advocate can help you look into these options, but they can’t get one for you.
Information about military or civilian response. Victim advocates can provide information about support services, what the military command can do to protect you, and what civilian law enforcement and courts can do in both military and civilian responses to domestic abuse.
Transitional compensation. Family members of military members separated from the service can receive temporary payments and benefits due to a dependent-abuse offense.
Transitional compensation assists military family members during the financial hardship they may face when they leave an abusive relationship.
Remember, however, the victim advocate can help you through the process of applying, but does not do it for you. Victim advocates can assist you every step of the way.

Army Community Services Hawaii handed out purple awareness ribbons for Domestic Violence Awareness Month in October, Sept. 30.

Army Community Services Hawaii handed out purple awareness ribbons for Domestic Violence Awareness Month in October, Sept. 30.

Steps for support
Keep yourself safe from an abusive spouse or partner. Read more about making a restricted report and getting confidential help. Take these steps to get the help you need to keep yourself safe from an abusive spouse or partner:
Seek support. Talk with a friend, co-worker, relative or neighbor.
Find out about military reporting options. The military offers confidential reporting of domestic abuse, so you can get the help you need without immediate command notification or law enforcement involvement.
Document evidence of violence. If you seek medical treatment, explain what happened. Ask the health care provider to document the incident or injuries in your medical record. Save any threatening emails or voicemails.
Plan ahead in case you need to leave on short notice. A domestic abuse victim advocate can help you create a safety plan for you and your children. This plan includes tips, such as gathering important documents in one place, getting a credit card in your own name, saving a secret fund of cash, keeping a change of clothing for yourself and your children, and keeping an extra set of car keys at a friend’s home or at work.

A place setting for Caitlin Albritton was on display during the Domestic Violence Awareness Month Proclamation signing, Sept. 30. Albritton was six weeks pregnant when she died in 2013 shooting by her ex-boyfriend who had stalked and physically abused her.

A place setting for Caitlin Albritton was on display during the Domestic Violence Awareness Month Proclamation signing, Sept. 30.

Gather information. Resources are available to assist with potential legal issues, such as military or civilian protective orders, counseling, shelters and resources in your community. Visit the legal assistance office on your installation for information about legal issues.
Have a safe place to go. If you feel threatened or at risk of harm, find a safe place to go, preferably somewhere unknown to your spouse. Sometimes friends and relatives are not the best option because your abuser will know where to find you.
Have a secret code. If you have children, come up with a secret code word or phrase to use as a signal to leave the house and go to a specific location, such as a neighbor’s home, that you’ve arranged and practiced in advance.
Think about safety at school or child care facilities. Abusive spouses may try to take children from school and child care settings. Any restraining order or military protective order should include measures to keep your kids safe.
Be sure either your children’s school or child care center is aware of your domestic situation and give them a copy of the restraining order or military protective order.
Plan your escape. Practice getting out of the house quickly without being noticed when your abuser’s not around.
Have a cell phone available to call for help. If you don’t own one, recycled cell phones that function only for 911 calls are available through domestic violence prevention programs.
Inform your employer. Let your supervisor know about your situation in case your spouse or partner shows up at your workplace.

Retired Lt. Col. Makalena Shibata offers a Hawaiian oli, or chant, asking for all participants to act justly at all times. Shibata later explained the importance of her oli in English and how if everyone acted as if their commander were watching them the world would be a more just place.

Retired Lt. Col. Makalena Shibata offers a Hawaiian oli, or chant, asking for all participants to act justly at all times. Shibata later explained the importance of her oli in English and how if everyone acted as if their commander were watching them the world would be a more just place.

You’re the only one who can make the decision to walk away from abusive behavior. Whether you decide to stay or go, you can get confidential help. A safety plan can save your life.

Remember, if someone’s hurting you – emotionally or physically – you’re not alone. There are people willing to listen and assist. Give a domestic abuse advocate a call to see how he or she can help.

Get Help
Contact a domestic abuse advocate at the FAP, ACS (655-4227) or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. Both resources allow you to remain anonymous.

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