We can help service-connected victims of domestic abuse

| March 31, 2017 | 1 Comment
A place setting for Felicia LaDuke, a Schofield Barracks Soldier and Iraq War Veteran, sits among several displays during the Sept. 30 signing. LaDuke was beaten and strangled to death by the father of son, Oct. 7, 2005 at Kaena Point.

SCHOFIELD BARRACKS — A place setting for Felicia LaDuke, a Schofield Barracks Soldier and Iraq War Veteran, sits among several displays during the Sept. 30, 2016 proclamation signing. LaDuke was beaten and strangled to death by the father of son, Oct. 7, 2005 at Kaena Point.

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News Release
No one deserves to be abused – ever.

However, anyone can be a victim of domestic abuse, whether a friend, relative, neighbor or co-worker.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month and October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. For both, the focus is on prevention.

Once you understand domestic abuse, you can support victims safely, confidentially and at their own pace.

Having their abuse discovered can be embarrassing and frightening for victims, so you’ll need to tread lightly. And some victims may never report their abuse. If you ever feel a victim is in immediate danger, get help right away.

B1_USAG_Domestic-Violence-Awareness_Logo_WUnderstanding domestic abuse
Contact your installation Family Advocacy Program (808-624-7233) or the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-SAFE or 7233) if you think someone is being abused, but you’re not sure. They can help you talk it through.

Domestic abuse usually involves a pattern of violence and emotional and verbal abuse. It’s important to understand domestic abuse, so you can recognize it and offer help to victims.

Abusers may hurt their victims and maintain control over them using insults, put-downs, public humiliation and name calling, along with physical abuse. Abusers may threaten violence, suicide, financial deprivation or to take away the children.

The abuser’s need to feel powerful and in control of another person’s behavior and actions underlies all domestic abuse.

High levels of stress created by the cycle of deployment and reintegration, recovery from physical or psychological injuries, or military transitions can add to the risk of abuse.

Frequent relocations that separate military families from social support systems can also add to the risk of abuse.

The economic dependence of many military spouses is another risk factor for abuse.

Warning signs of abuse
Being aware of the signs is the first step in getting help or offering support to someone who may be at risk. Some of the signs of domestic abuse follow:
•Fear of one’s spouse or of ending the relationship.
•Physical abuse, including grabbing, pinching, shoving or hitting.
•Emotional abuse, such as put-downs, embarrassment or humiliation in private or in front of others.
•Social isolation, in which the victim isn’t allowed to see or talk to relatives or friends.
•Threats of violence against the victim, the victim’s children or people the victim loves.
•Unexplained bruises or injuries.
•Increased or unexplained absences from work.
•Harassing phone calls at work/home.
•Withdrawal from friends, family or fellow service members.

How you can help
Learn more about a victim’s reporting options. If you have a friend, relative, neighbor or co-worker who may be a victim of domestic abuse, reach out and offer support.

Many people are uncomfortable raising an issue they think is none of their business, or they’re afraid that revealing suspicions will increase the risk of abuse or adversely affect a service member’s career. But domestic abuse can be a matter of life and death.

Here are ways you can offer support:
•Show your concern. Let the person you’re concerned about know you’re ready to listen and help. Encourage the victim to seek medical attention for any injuries.
•Offer information on support resources. You can urge your relative or friend to contact FAP to speak with a victim advocate.
Make sure the victim understands the military’s options for reporting domestic abuse. Except in certain circumstances, victims can get assistance from a FAP victim advocate and receive medical care without it automatically resulting in an abuse investigation or notification to the service member’s command.
•Call 911 if the victim is in immediate danger of assault or physical injury. If on a military installation, call your military law enforcement office (655-5555 or 438-7114).
•Remind the victim of the impact of domestic abuse on children. Whether or not they physically experience violence, children living in violent households suffer emotional and psychological damage.
Remind the person that abusers rarely stop without help, regardless of promises. An incident of domestic abuse is often followed by a “honeymoon” period. When tensions mount, the violent behavior returns.
•Be there for the victim. A victim of domestic abuse may need you to make phone calls, go with him or her to the police or help with child care while working out a safety plan. Although you can’t do it all, ask and do what you can to help.
•Respect the victim’s decisions. You may wonder why the victim stays in an abusive relationship. Many reasons may exist; none of them are simple.
•Respect and support the victim who chooses to stay. A victim often returns to the abuser several times before leaving for good. Your continued help, support and encouragement are vital.

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  1. Mike says:

    I was a CID agent who helped work this case. Such a tragedy to get to know a person like Felicia after she was already gone. She is missed by people she never met. I hope we brought some small comfort to her family. I think of her and little Elijah every day. I appreciate you guys keeping her memory alive. Peace be with you.

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